Reasonable ideas, and I'll see what I can do -- but, it's surprisingly difficult.
Action bar icons are laid out left to right, and even showAsAction=always doesn't "always" help.
The Delete icon being on the right lets it "drop off" into the menu when the icon bar isn't wide enough -- which makes sense since it's not needed very often. And the send / save icons being on the left makes sure they're visible -- as icons -- in both action bar locations (top / bottom) and also on tablets.